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Read Kim’s Psychology Today blog, “The Novel Perspective: Life as a Work in Progress,” and other musings…

How to Actively Listen During Triggering Conversations

Whenever I’m faced with a difficult conversation about an emotionally charged issue, I always ask myself, “How can I listen in a way that is open to really taking in what the other person shares? How do I not immediately get caught in needing to prove that I’m right? What I can get curious about […]

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How Are You Growing?

Changing Our Catch-Up Conversations Can Help Us Feel More Connected

I recently bumped into an old friend who had been struggling emotionally. As I opened my mouth to ask for an update, I stopped. In a flash, I recalled times of turmoil when that simple, well-intended question had stung, forcing me to choose between a perfunctory response or vulnerability and shame. So instead of “how […]

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From Mindless Din to Deep Mindfulness

The Journey of Spiritually-Oriented Psychotherapy

Several years ago, I participated in a group exercise at a job orientation that became a guiding metaphor about how to remain connected to my inner voice amid the noise of modern life. The goal of the exercise was to walk from one end of a large room to the other, blindfolded, while navigating an […]

Filed Under: Articles & Essays, Blog, Media Tagged With: Psychotherapy, Spiritual Counseling, Spiritual Guidance, Spirituality, Spiritually-Oriented Psychotherapy

Your Anger Knows Your Worth

10 Steps to Turn Your Temper into Your Teacher

Imagine you live in a castle. One day, when you let down your drawbridge, you’re overrun by a horde of hungry hooligans. The rascals rummage through your halls, plunder your pantry, and consume all your food and booze, leaving a trail of mayhem. As you enter the scene, you feel your temper rising. However, you hold […]

Filed Under: Articles & Essays, Blog Tagged With: Anger, Internal Family Systems, self esteem, self-help

The Self Lost and Found

How Creativity Holds Up a Mirror to Our Inner World

Maria was a 31-year-old artist who sought help to disentangle herself from a dysfunctional relationship with an emotionally abusive man. For the past few weeks, she had been seized by a compulsion to paint self portraits. She portrayed her likeness from various angles, experimenting with different hues and styles. She explained that she had “lost […]

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It’s Not Whether You Win or Lose, But How You Tell Your Story

Redefining What It Means to Have a Happy Ending

When I was young, one of my favorite books was Sugarcane Island, which was the first “choose your own adventure” type of interactive book. The premise was fairly simple: You had been shipwrecked on a deserted island. The goal was survival and finding your way home. At the end of each chapter was a list of […]

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How to Stop Getting Stuck in the Same Old Plotline

Have you ever noticed that the same type of character keeps showing up in your life and pushing all your buttons? These people may look nothing alike or even share the same gender, but they keep presenting you with more or less the same frustrations and issues. Or perhaps it’s not a certain person but […]

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Tapping into Your Omniscient Narrator

How Writing in the Third Person Helps You Step Out of Your Story

In the movie Stranger than Fiction, Harold Crick is a robotic IRS agent who begins to question his mundane existence when he hears a mysterious voice narrating his life and foreshadowing his untimely death. When he discovers that he is not the master of his own destiny, but rather a fictional character dreamed up by an […]

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Cyber-spying and Defriending

How Facebook is Finding Its Way Onto the Therapy Couch

As a psychotherapist in private practice, I can’t help but notice that Facebook is wreaking mischief in some of my clients’ personal lives. One client caused a family scandal when he established privacy settings that prevented some, but not all, of his relatives from seeing his status updates. A 14-year-old client gave up Facebook for […]

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The Trouble with Texting

Why Texting is No Substitute for Face-to-Face Communication

Lately, I’ve noticed more clients using text messages to discuss or argue about unresolved issues in their relationships. As someone who is all thumbs with my thumbs, I’m always amazed that people have the digital dexterity to carry on a reasonably coherent text dialogue for longer than two minutes. But personal challenges aside, texting is […]

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"Schneiderman doesn't promise that your world will become instantly rosy and perfect; nor does she say that the journey will be an easy one. Rather, she is an encouraging and supporting presence, providing her readers with a tool chest of possibilities for making change in their lives."

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Step Out Of Your Story

STEP OUT OF YOUR STORY

Writing Exercises to Reframe and Transform Your Life

Every life is an unfolding story, and how individuals tell their story matters. Recent Stanford and Columbia University studies show that how we view the story of our life shapes the life itself. Who are the heroes and villains? Where does the plot twist? How are conflicts resolved? Learn more...

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